Most of us live hectic lives, which includes juggling kids, aging parents, jobs, bills, deadlines, housework, relationships, pets and a million other responsibilities. Add to that illnesses, divorce, hurricanes, heartache, loss, frustration and failure, and it’s easy to find yourself off-balance.
It affects all of us differently. The first symptom I experience when I am off center is the noise in my head becomes louder than the music, and I stop noticing what’s playing on the radio. From there, it’s like falling down a flight of stairs, as each of my good habits fold to ways to self-medicate. Fresh veggies are traded for carbs. Water turns into wine. Exercise is traded for watching television.
Relationships become neglected. Sleep eludes me, and those things, in turn, affect my mind, body and soul. Just like when a washing machine becomes off-balance, sometimes we need to stop and find our center again. But what would be even better, is if we learned some skills for managing life that prevented us from getting to that point in the first place. So, we asked the experts at Just Be Centre for practical tips for keeping balanced and staying centered.
The question posed to each one is: What do you do to center your life?
Alyssa J. Herczegh
Alyssa J. Herczegh is the owner and esthetician at Alyssa J. Natural Skin Care. She is a South Carolina State Board licensed esthetician, specializing in holistic, non-invasive skin care, using only all-natural and organic skin care products. She received her Esthetics certification from the International Spa Institute in Bluffton, SC. She is also certified in crystal-free microdermabrasion and chemical peels. Her passion has always been helping others achieve health and happiness inside and out. I am centered and full of mindfulness when my self-love is at its best. One way I personally nurture this is to practice healthy self-care. My intentions are set to go to my sacred place every Sunday afternoon and unplug from the outside world. I have a mini spa retreat in my bathroom. It is my self-love ritual where I acknowledge I am a loving vessel and nourish it the way it deserves. I begin by lighting candles and drawing a warm bath filled with Epsom salts, flower petals and essential oils. I then dry brush my body to remove dead skin cells. I cleanse my face and apply one of my Laurel Whole Plant Organics facial masks. I sip on a cup of organic herbal tea, let go of the past week and just be. I end up feeling beautiful and become fully restored for the week ahead. Contact Alyssa at 330-603-1712.
Laurie Holmes, LMT, is a massage therapist and certified transformative wellness coach. She is licensed in several states and has worked with Olympic and professional athletes, as well as with people who are recovering from accidents. With a 30-year career doing therapeutic body work, she has worked extensively with clients who want to experience more freedom of movement and less pain in their bodies. The key to living a balanced life is to nurture your whole self by taking care of your physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. If food, water and exercise determine our physical wellbeing, and positive mental stimulation replenishes our mental wellbeing, then happiness, compassion and loving kindness feeds our spiritual wellbeing. Love, happiness, joy, success, peace of mind are not a place to get to, but a place inside ourselves to come from. As Michael Neill once said during a Master Class for Transformational Coaching, “We live in the feeling of our thinking, not in the feeling of our circumstance.” That philosophy has the power to transform one’s thinking forever. Contact Laurie at 843-422-7454.
Dr. Jennifer L Lemire
Dr. Jennifer L Lemire is a chiropractor at Just Be Centre. She attended the University of Pittsburg before graduating from Life University in Atlanta with a Doctorate of Chiropractic. She focuses on Family Chiropractic. This includes adjusting infants, children and pregnant moms, too. I believe what we can all do is be mindful of our what our bodies are telling us. We tend to ignore everyday aches, pains and physical changes. In reality, this is a way our body ‘talks’ to us, which IS our warning sign that something needs to be addressed. This could range from a dry bottom lip that indicates dehydration to pain and decreased range of motion, possibly due from a pinched-nerve. Mindfulness of our body should be considered the number one way to center your life. It not only can affect you physically, but also emotionally. Contact Dr. Jennifer 843-540-8750.
As seen in PINK Magazine | Photography by Laurie McCall
Bluffton, SC (WSAV) – They call it the club that nobody wants to join.
But two Bluffton mothers are welcoming parents like them with open arms to a group called Helping Parents Heal. It designed to bring comfort and hope to parents who’ve lost a child.
Irene Vouvalides of Hilton Head started the only South Carolina chapter last October. It’s one way she copes with the loss of her daughter, Carly, who died just days before her 24th birthday after being diagnosed in October of 2012 with a rare form of stomach cancer. “She was the kind of person that when you walked into a room you were drawn to her. She was so kind. Very funny,” Vouvalides said.Irene hangs on to every memory of Carly and shares them with anyone who listens.
“So many people when they find out that you’ve lost a child, they don’t want to talk about it. They think that you don’t want to talk about it and that’s completely the opposite of what we want,” Vouvalides said. It was February of 2013 when after a four month fight against gastric cancer Carly died.
That’s when Irene entered a kind of grief that only those who’ve lost a child can understand.“I would wake up every day and thinking I was waking up from a nightmare when I realized my life was this nightmare,” she said.
Nannette Manning, owner of the Just Be Centre in Bluffton, understands that feeling.“It was a traumatic accident. He was here one minute and gone the next,” Manning said of her 19-year-old son. It’s been 14 years now since his death, but time doesn’t lessen the pain of losing him.
“It takes you to the bowels of hell,” Manning said of coping with losing a child.
But the two mothers find comfort and purpose in their time together…and with the group Helping Parents Heal. About 40 people strong, the parents gather monthly for a time of sharing and caring.“We offer hope. We offer hope and healing,” Vouvalides said.
The parents get to know each other’s children. Many share their child’s dreams that Mom, Dad and friends now carryout.“The school was very important to her,” Vouvalides said of an African American Catholic school her daughter’s foundation Carly’s Kids now supports.
Helping Parents Heal is a place where everyone means it when they say, ‘I know how you feel,’ and ‘we’re in this together.’ “And it’s all about love,” Manning added.
Helping Parents Heal meets on the second Sunday of every month from 1-3pm at Seaquins Ballroom at 1300 Fording Island Road in Bluffton. For more information contact Irene at 201-233-6015.
Helping Parents Heal is a world-wide organization with more than 7,000 members. There are 15 groups in the United States.
Remember that old spiritual song, Dem Bones? “The toe bone’s connected to the foot bone, the foot bone’s connected to the ankle bone…”
So it is in health and wellness; everything is related to something else.
For example, a good B complex with quality cobalamin can calm stress and enhance energy. But the B vitamin needs co-factors to operate optimally. The B’s need each other as well as C, which needs minerals like magnesium, which needs choline to penetrate the cells. Vitamins D and A are synergistic, but need quality fat, which is broken down by bile, which needs the liver. You get the idea. For the average person, this type of micro-managing fosters anxiety. And anxiety hurts your digestive tract. (Sigh)
The human body-mind-soul is a miraculous instrument if we give it proper fuel and have a good microbiome and intact digestive system. But most of us don’t.
Microbiome is a fancy term for gut bacteria, both good and bad. The good news is, internally, the good guys always triumph over the bad. In the colon, life is fair!
The microbiome and digestive canal can be damaged by many events: poor quality food, glyphosate-sprayed crops, stress, sugar and antibiotics, to name a few.
A growing list of disorders tentatively are tied to poor bowel integrity and gut biome, including inflammation, fatigue, allergies, asthma, psoriasis, auto immune problems, anxiety and depression. In any case, it wouldn’t hurt to repopulate good bacteria in your gut to see if your health improves.
So Fix Me!
Try starting here:
1. Eat only organic food, or better, buy directly from farmers to ascertain that no toxic chemicals are used on the crops.
2. Take a quality probiotic that has 20 billion organisms, a pre-biotic (inulin or FOS) and at least 12 different strains of bacteria. (Taking just one, like acidophilus, is like eating a carrot a day and no other vegetables.) When you finish that bottle, buy a different brand to introduce a new variety of microbes.
3. Consume fermented foods; they contain good bugs! Try Kimchee, sauerkraut, pickles without sugar or dye, Greek style organic yogurt without sugar, full-fat please, no skim anything. (Remember, the vitamins need fat to work!)
Help your poor, abused colon and your very-in-vogue microbiome will power up exponentially!
As always, this is not intended as medical advice. Please check with your doctor.
Walkers, canes and nursing homes don’t have to be part of the aging process. With so many seniors living longer and more vibrant lives, including chiropractic care as part of their wellness repertoire may help them get the most out of their golden years.
Chiropractic is completely natural. Here are some of the many benefits of chiropractic that may help mature adults enjoy optimal health as they age:
Chiropractic not only helps you enjoy greater flexibility in your spine but also in your extremities. When you are able to enjoy a greater range of motion, you can experience a greater quality of life by being able to do all the activities you love! Bend down and pick up your grandchildren, do some gardening or drive an extra 40 yards on the golf course.
If you’re looking to relieve your pain without the use of painkillers or anti-inflammatory medications, chiropractic care may be the best option for you. I’ll identify and reduce any vertebral misalignments and their related effects on the nervous system. By locating the underlying cause of your pain and reducing any interference, your body is able to heal itself as it was intended. The result just might be that you experience relief that you didn’t think was possible!
Reduced Falls Balance and coordination issues are common among the aging population due to degenerative changes or injuries to the cervical (neck) region. The joint receptors in the cervical spine provide the brain with the necessary information used to trigger balance and coordination.
Any interference you experience during the aging process may cause you to lose your sense of awareness, and your steps may become irregular and uneven in length. One of the best ways we can offer to keep balanced and reduce falling incidents is to maintain proper motion and alignment with regular chiropractic care.
Call843-540-8750 today for an appointment with Chiropractor Dr. Jennifer L Lemire at the Just Be Centre in Bluffton. Learn more about Dr. Jennifer L. Lemire.
Fine-Grain Sea Salts make a terrific all-body treatment to remove dead skin cells, balance moisture and pull toxins from pores. Rich in potassium and magnesium, they can reduce stress, tension and ease sore muscles. To use, wet your skin and lightly massage the salts over your body. Leave them on for a few minutes, then rinse. Try adding them to a warm bath and soaking for 10-15 minutes.
Apple Cider Vinegar is a great natural astringent and helps to balance your skin’s PH, remove dirt, kill bacteria and promote circulation. Always dilute it. After cleansing and before moisturizing, mix one part vinegar to three parts water and apply to your face with a cotton ball. No need to rinse!
Coconut Oil is an amazing body moisturizer and facial cleanser. Naturally antibacterial and antifungal, it helps heal rashes, scars, infections and acne. Apply to your body and leave on for 20 minutes, then shower off. To cleanse very dry facial skin, apply a small amount to wet hands and rub in circular motion over the face. Rinse with warm water. Note: Coconut oil may clog pores if your skin is normal or oily.
Extra Virgin Olive Oil, rich in vitamins, minerals and natural fatty acids, is excellent for sensitive skin. This antioxidant-rich oil minimizes the appearance of wrinkles and fine lines, nourishes and protects the skin from sun damage. Use a small amount on your face or hair!
Honey is soothing, moisturizing, and helps kill bacteria. Try these excellent homemade facial mask recipes.
Honey Mask For Acne Prone Skin
Mix 3 tsp. raw honey with 1/2 tsp. cinnamon. Apply and leave on for 10-30 minutes. When rinsing, gently massage your face in circles for a light exfoliation.
Honey Mask For Dry Skin
Mix 1 tsp. each of mashed avocado, plain whole milk yogurt and raw honey. Spread the mixture over your face and wait for 20-30 minutes before rinsing. Avocado and yogurt are deeply moisturizing, and the lactic acid in yogurt smoothes, refines pores and stimulates collagen production.
Honey Mask For Sensitive Skin
Mix 2 tsp. raw honey with 1 tsp. aloe vera gel. Apply and leave on for 10-20 minutes.
Schedule a 30-minute consultant ($40) for personalized advice, including skin analysis, mini facial and “do’s and don’ts” of buying organic and natural.
Lindsey Spargur, Lindsey@healthyskinbylin.com, is the owner and esthetician of Healthy Skin By Lin, located within the Just Be Centre in Bluffton Village. Justbecentre.com